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I Don’t Have All the Answers, But I Have a Lot of Grace

October 12, 2015 by Roxanne

My generation of mothers is obsessed with getting it right. We read all the books, all the blogs, all the articles, all the studies, all the alls. We stop at nothing to figure it out all.

This is hurting us tremendously and I believe is sending many of us into states of panic, depression and anxiety.

Our mothers and grandmothers didn’t do this. They just didn’t. First of all the internet wasn’t at their fingertips. But also, they just lived. They made mistakes, and we are all better for it.

I don’t have all the answers.

I don’t WANT all the answers. Life is about learning. We learn best from our mistakes. Sure, I want to get it right with my kids. But I won’t. And I can’t. So thank God for grace, because I wouldn’t be the mother I am without it.

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I Planned All the Fun, but Forgot to Participate

July 23, 2015 by Roxanne

Moms are the most prepared people on Earth. I can anticipate my family’s needs and be over-prepared for almost every single outing we take. We’re going to the pool? Ok, I need: swimsuits, swim diapers, sunscreen, aloe vera, sunglasses, sun hats, towels, an extra towel just in case, change of clothes, regular diapers, water, more water, snacks, toys and medical bag (which includes tylenol, teething tablets, baking soda in case of wasp sting, band-aids and Neosporin). I don’t think it’s possible for me to be more prepared.

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Trusting God in the Waves

July 9, 2015 by Roxanne

Is there anything more difficult than placing our trust in someone other than ourselves? We are humans, this is our sin nature. We believe we know better, we have it all figured out and we are in control. Trusting God with our lives is an afterthought at best.

I’m fairly certain very little is more upsetting for our Creator. I mean, other than blatantly discrediting Him as God, acting as if we are more worthy of trust and are capable of doing it all alone, is very likely a slap in the face. After all, choosing to trust ourselves over trusting God is doing exactly that – discrediting Him.

In this season of flux where I am not even remotely in control of our circumstances, God is lovingly and gently releasing my death grip on the need to control. He’s teaching me what trusting Him REALLY looks like and reminding me it is a safe place to be. I’m learning that my death grip on control, is actually letting control keep its death grip on me.

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