I spent the entire last month of my second pregnancy rocking my firstborn to sleep every night and weeping over the changes she was about to face. It’s a bittersweet thing isn’t it? Having a second child? You know you’re giving your firstborn the greatest gift in the world by providing a sibling to share life with, but it doesn’t always feel wonderful. I ached because her life would look different and she would have no idea why.
My fears were high. Would she understand that we still loved her more than anything? Would she resent us? Would I resent the new baby? Would bringing home baby brother create a wild child acting out for attention? Have we made a huge mistake? How could we ever prepare her for this? I believe all of those fears are valid and normal. Bringing home another baby IS a big deal. It is life changing for your family unit, but especially for your firstborn.
Preparing your child for a new baby is a huge undertaking, and I believe it can be done well. I want to share a few things I know we did right, but unfortunately I know there are a few things we did wrong too. Hopefully you can learn from our mistakes!
(Photo credits to Laura Vanderzee, our very favorite photographer!)…