“Oh so you stay at home? What do you do all day?”
If you have even a smidgen of a functioning brain, you are smart enough to recognize that isn’t the wisest question to ask a stay at home mom. To clarify, I work from home, and (very part-time) outside of the home as well. In fact, I can’t think of one stay at home mom who doesn’t do something on the side or volunteer work. But nevertheless.
At the same time, when someone asks me what I do, I can’t always come up with a real answer. I KNOW I have accomplished plenty with my time, but it doesn’t always feel that way, am I right?
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So what do you do all day?
Well. Here’s a little glimpse into the life of this Stay At Home Mom:
Wake up before husband leaves for work and before the babies so I can take a dang shower.
Boy Foster wakes up before normal, therefore Bible time gets nixed.
Spend 10 minutes playing and focusing on Boy Foster, we rarely get time alone.
Sister wakes up, snuggle with both babies and say good morning prayers.
Put on Daniel Tiger so I can make breakfast and drink my coffee (Man Foster makes it for me, bless him).
Unload a handful of the dishes while the eggs cook.
Stop unloading dishes because Boy Foster wants to climb all over the dishwasher.
Eat breakfast, brush Girl Foster’s and my own teeth.
Try to pee alone, fail.
Find Boy Foster standing on top of kid craft table. Attempt discipline. Fail.
Wait on the porch for a dear friend so we can all grab some fresh air.
Text 4 friends that I need to catch up with.
Send three work related emails while keeping Boy Foster from eating dirt.
Enjoy coffee and catching up with an old friend before she moves across the country.
Let Girl Foster watch Daniel Tiger so I can chat uninterrupted.
Feel guilty about it being the third episode of the day (before 10:00).
Didn’t the AAP just say screen time is FIIINE? (Totally fine.)
Say goodbye to friend.
Realize I should probably start that massive pile of laundry or it will just keep growing.
Spray and sort 4 loads of laundry. Put first load in washer.
Try emptying dishwasher again.
Make mental note to tell husband cups go on the top shelf.
Scratch that. Text husband and say thank you for putting dishes in the dishwasher. Criticism can come later.
Sign up to take friend with new baby dinner.
Text new friend to see how it’s going.
Wipe up mess of the coffee table from kids’ snack time (with a baby wipe of course).
Accidentally wipe off paint.
Make mental note to put a sealer on coffee table.
Text husband to grab sealer at Lowe’s.
Remember that I need to pay the Lowe’s credit card.
Rescue toys from the trash can (Boy Foster’s new favorite pastime).
One friend’s text reminds me it is Man Foster’s birthday next week. (oops)
Totally forgot because it’s also Girl Foster’s birthday.
Remember I still have to order Girl Foster’s cake. Make mental note.
Call mom to see if she can babysit so we can go on a date.
Make date plans for Man Foster’s birthday.
Whip and Nae Nae with the babies in the kitchen. Judge me.
Switch load of laundry – realize I did NOT use soap on the first load. Meh.
I made a ton of mental notes that I didn’t write down. I’ll probably forget them.
Quote family memory verse with Girl Foster while tidying up toys.
Wonder if I’m weirdly indoctrinating her by memorizing scripture with her.
Text favorite theological friend to ask her thoughts.
Rescue another toy from trash can.
Prep food for tonight’s dinner.
All of this before 12:00 PM. Then, it was time to make lunch, put the babies down for nap and continue with the rest of the day’s work.
Let me be REALLY clear. This is not what my day looks like each and every day. Today held a lot more catching up to do because I spent yesterday resting from sickness. Regardless, my day is regularly full.
And in the chaos of ALL THE THINGS, I found myself asking God, “What for?”
What am I doing all of this for? How is this honoring you? How am I contributing anything to the Kingdom?
Clear as day this Scripture was imprinted on my heart: “And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” Colossians 3:17
I can accomplish A LOT in any given amount of time. But what am I working for? Better yet, WHO am I working for? Where is my heart in my laboring?
I know every single person can create a list of what they’ve done today just as long or quite possibly longer than mine. But where are our hearts? Are we thankful for the tasks at hand? Are we doing even the mundane in the name of the Lord?
Be encouraged momma. You’re working for the Lord. Give thanks for this hard work.